Here’s a thought provoking piece on voluntourism…It is possible to be a respectful tourist and truly check your privilege at your departure gate?
We’re doomed by hook up culture, texting is killing romance, and social media makes us feel more lonely & disconnected – oh the joys of dating as a Millennial!
One of the common questions that Millennials with significant others face in a world where the majority of our social interactions take place online is, should I list my relationship status on Facebook?
On the one hand, it is nice to list your relationship status and receive the warm fuzzies that your network will give via “likes” and comments. It feels good to receive positive attention around a romantic event in your life – a new relationship is definitely something to be celebrated.
On the other hand – those warm fuzzies have the potential to become salt in an open wound if you and your partner end up breaking up and have to update your Facebook accounts accordingly. It can be very hurtful for your emotional experiences to be openly aired online, where people can make cruel comments or “like” your ex’s new “Single” status.
Should you make it “Facebook official”? How will Millennials redefine dating norms and leverage social media in our personal lives?
- Russia scares me – toxic water, hotel bathrooms that lock people inside, slaughtering stray dogs, and of course, discriminating against LGBTQ people…
- As much as I hate to admit it patriotism and winning feel pretty darn good
- McDonalds as the official Olympic food sponsor…ridiculous
- Commentators often run out of things to say – sometimes watching on mute is better
- The intersection between politics and sports…
- Cross country skiing + shooting? Biathlon is badass!
Where’s the line between risqué art and straight up racism? The editor-in-chief at Garage Magazine seems to have found out.
I rode the bus today and spent 30 minutes listening to a young woman complain to her mother about her job and what sounded like a lot of passive aggressiveness and other work-related stressors and social dynamics. I was tempted to scorn this woman with my glares and thoughts of “Please shut up!!” when suddenly it hit me: some people can’t help it, they have simply been conditioned to be complainers.
Some people grew up learning that whining meant attention, that grumbling was a path to friendship (or at least camaraderie), and that ultimately they are a victim to life’s terrors & tumult – and nothing feels better than to commiserate with other victims. Some folks have complaining and playing-the-victim ingrained in the way that they process their environments and daily events – because why else would someone consciously CHOOSE to be unhappy. Not to say that being happy is a matter of thinking “and I’m going to start feeling happy…NOW!” – but the frameworks that you adopt to interpret your surroundings and interactions really do matter when it comes to long-term happiness. If you operate thinking that life is an unmapped roller coaster controlled by fate and sheer luck – perhaps you won’t get so down when you have the occasional bad day…But if you perceive the world as inherently against you, as full of terrible spiteful people that conspire to make your life a living hell even though you are a perfectly innocent individual…well, not-so-coincidentally you just may interpret every single situation that way.
The first group of people – the “life is unpredictable and arbitrarily luck-based” folks have better chances of keeping their cool under duress – their serenity sits at the bottom of a big lake, and they let the difficult obstacles and tragedies in their life turn into small stones that hit the surface of the water and are absorbed into the continued stillness. The second group, the “victims,” take each and every stone – whether a boulder or a pebble – personally and bitterly, looking up at the skies and asking “WHY ME??”
This realization helps me empathize with the “victims” who I often just perceive as negative whiners, because they probably have never been taught to use any other emotional/mental framework when processing difficult events. An array of diverse emotional and mental frameworks is like an arsenal against unhappiness – because you have the means to adapt to situations quickly and psychologically make the best of things. But how can this be learned once someone is already comfortable with the victimhood framework? The next time that someone around me is extremely negative and can’t stop complaining – what is the best way to disrupt this cycle without coming off as unsupportive, spiteful, or condescending?